Caring for the orphan, the unknown…
Caring for the orphan, the unknown…
Many people don’t realize just how much adoptions cost. From domestic to international, the average family will completely drain their savings account to bring their child home. It is not “buying” a baby, it is answering a call regardless the price. It is very unfortunate there is so much paperwork and expense involved with adopting. So many children here and abroad, need mommas and daddies, yet bureaucratic policies and fees are what stand between many of these precious little ones finding a family. Some costs are necessary, and the paperwork is designed to keep the wackos out. It is, however, a bit extreme and so many are discouraged by just the thought of it.
I’m not saying this to make you feel sorry for us, we will happily and willingly spend every last dime. My intent is simply to make others aware, we had no idea how difficult and emotionally challenging it was to adopt until we were immersed in it. So when an adoptive family asks you to buy their t-shirt, donate items to their yard sale, come to their kitchenware/jewelry/bag/candle party, or sign up for a 5k, please know it is humbling and awkward and by helping you are making a very difficult process a little more doable. Whether you give money or not, just knowing people are praying for you, supporting you, and rooting you on makes the process so much easier! And by doing that, you are caring for the orphan as we are all told to do.
I’m sure I am preaching to the choir, as those of you reading my blog already seem to support and love our family! Please know just how much I appreciate every last one of you!!!!! For some reason I woke up needing to share this. It could have something to do with being asked recently by folks, “Why don’t you just adopt in America, why China” and “I think adopting an American would be better for our community, you know foreign adoption services only do this for the money” and “I think you should reconsider, this child is so sick, why bring the unknown into your family when you already have 3 healthy kids to care for”. Their intentions may have been well meaning, and the questions are valid. But if you ask with a snarl and don’t really care to hear the answers, just hush. I promise those are all things each adoptive family have already considered.
We have adopted domestically, I am not against it, I’d do it again tomorrow. It does come with it’s own set of problems and the fees are just about the same. Travel expenses are just significantly lower. Whether or not the country you are adopting from makes money from the process does not negate the fact there are countless children living in orphanages or on the street because people are not coming to them. All human life is precious. All children deserve a family. Every day is unknown. Every pregnancy outcome is unknown. Every trip to the Walmart is unknown. We do not stop living, doing, helping, because of the unknown. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6)”. That’s what I strive to do, that’s how we roll!
With that said, we are currently working on a really cool fundraiser idea we got from another adoptive family. It is right up Josh’s alley, and just what I need to help me shed the “pregnancy/adoption weight” I have gained. We are working on fine tuning it and Josh is designing a website explaining all the details. True to Josh’s style, he’s taking it to an extreme and wants to continue the fundraising, after we are finished, for other families in this crazy expensive adoption process! We hope to reveal our fun plan by the end of the weekend, so be on the lookout! Here’s a hint:
“I will not leave you as orphans, I will come RUN to you.” (John14:18)
Happy Friday, y’all! Thanks for listening to me ramble!