I must confess, I’ve started this blog after a period of disenchantment with our latest adoption. Let me also warn you that I’ve started this blog while my husband is out of the country and not here to tell me to get off the computer. I apologize for the length of my past and future posts this week. When he returns he’ll help me control my ramblings. Until then, here I go…
Foolishly, even though I was determined not to be “one of those” people who think it will be a cakewalk, I convinced myself our adoption process would go fairly smoothly and there would be no delays with the timeline. We finished our part of the homestudy and patiently waited for the write-up (we had to use a different agency for the homestudy since Lifeline isn’t in Texas). Two months later, a week before Thanksgiving and several weeks after we were promised it would be done, our homestudy was ready and off it went with the I800A application to Immigration! Yay! Progress! One step closer to our daughter! We waited, and a few days before Christmas we received a package! Yay! I opened it, so excited, I couldn’t stand it! And here is what was inside:
What?!?! I flipped the page, eager to see what the reason was. Here is what the nasty notice said:
How was that possible? Incomplete? Missing pages? Not possible, our case worker reviewed it and mailed it in herself! I dove in desperately trying to figure out what we left out. I noticed the first few pages of the application had some sort of brown stain at the top, by the time I made it to page 5 the stain was more prominent. Then, where page 6 should have been, I find a bright green sheet of paper notifying us it was missing. That’s when I realized “page 6” was not left out, someone at USCIS had spilled their coffee on our bazillion page application and homestudy. Poor “page 6” suffered the fate of someones careless error.
No use crying over spilled coffee… Bull!! I cried. I cried like a baby. I cried for my baby. Then I called my case worker. We got the application put back together and Josh over-nighted it to immigration the next day. To make a long story short, our biometrics appointment is scheduled for February 1. Can I admit I naively thought when we started this adventure in June that we would be close to travel by February. Hahahaha! It’s ok, you can laugh. For those who haven’t adopted, most of this will be Greek to you and honestly it is to me too! In short, you can’t proceed without “permission to adopt” from US Immigration.
Here is what I’ve learned so far: 1) This is not in my hands. Fretting, worry, and pity parties will do no good. 2) Waiting and waiting on the Lord are two very different things (thanks Erica). 3) The hormonal and emotional rollercoaster ride of adoption is very very similar to that of actual pregnancy (20lbs can quickly and sneakily be added after several bouts of emotional/stress eating). 4) God’s timing is perfect, not my own, and He knows exactly who my daughter is and when she will be… This makes me happy, happy, happy.